Anti-rape activist Amber Amour revealed her rape and shared her photo which she took just after the incident.She was in a hostel,in Cape Town,South Africa.
As a rape-activist,she wanted to share her terrible incident on Instagram immediately.In the photo,Amber looks in tears and maybe she was in shock.Because she took this only minutes after being raped in the shower.Amber Amour tells the man invited her to take a shower at a party and she accepted.The reason that she agreed is she did not have hot water to bath in the hostel where she stayed.
”As soon as I got in the bathroom, he forced me to my knees,” Amour said.She adds,when she told him to stop,he acted more violently and used his physical power.She tells her passing out after the incident.”I’m here, alone, and any DNA has been wiped away in the shower. The South African police will just roll their eyes when I walk in. Feel sicker than ever now.”
Amber Amour works for a campaign ”StopRapeEducate”and she was in Cape Town to promote her campaign,which is so dramatic.In this campaign,she advises the rape victims to speak out.Maybe,it would be some weird if she herself stayed silent.
Amber Amour says,”The first time I experienced sexual violence, I was 12 years old, so confronting rape has been a life-long thing for me. Then, when I was 24, I started my campaign – ‘Stop Rape. Educate’ – in September 2014, after I was sexually assaulted by my roommate in New York, and I just didn’t appreciate the way the police handled the situation. I’ll never forget calling 911 and reporting my assault – only for eight male officers to turn up at my door. I was like, ‘OK, I said the rapist wasn’t here, so I don’t need eight of you, and at least send one woman, please?’ I don’t think they realised how traumatic it is for a survivor.
But then it got worse. One of the officers asked me if I was ‘sure’ that my rapist had known I meant no. ‘Maybe he thought you meant yes,’ he said. I remember looking down at his wedding ring and thinking, ‘if your wife says no, do you keep on going? Do you disregard that?’. Then, after all that, they ended up dismissing the court case anyway.”
Amber reveals ‘I immediately knew that I couldn’t keep what happened a secret. The first thing I did was take a picture and write a post, describing what had happened.’
Many people ask her why she Instagrammed her rape and Amber simply replies ”I knew I had to speak up. I had no idea how hard the aftermath would be.”
“I told the truth, the full truth, because I wanted to convey the message that no matter what a person does, there is not justification for rape.I just want anyone out there that has been through this to know that you can definitely get better and can turn your pain into power and that’s what I’m hoping to show the entire world,” she told .
The responses she took from her followers are different.Some of these:
”You are honestly a disgusting excuse of a human. You are the reason actual victims lose credibility.”
“It’s beyond me that someone who was raped before and educates on rape would put themselves in a situation such as this.” Another person said, “Thata [sic] like letting a hungry cobra play with ur pet mouse.”
Now,she has started a new project called”Creating Consent Culture.”She thinks sharing the sexual assault experiences is a very effective way to deal with it.Also she says,”No man wants the reputation of being a rapist, when we start telling each other about what has happened to us – be it face-to-face, over the phone or on social media – it creates a sense of shame.
‘But this time, it’s placed on those who are actually at fault. And that’s the way it should be.’’