These are the some tips for having a happy marriage and keeping it stronger.
First,acquire the habit of saying’thank you’.If you are aware you have something to appreciate,speak out.Stephanie Coontz, author of “Marriage, a History,” says that “relationships, like the economy, run on credit.” She implies the importance of giving credit and expressing your gratitude to your partner for what she/he did to make your life easier.
Secondly,in every discussion, remember that there won’t be a “winner” and a “loser.”Just prefer to love him/her even during a severe debate.
In the third way,invest time for your marriage and make time together.You can join some activities which can be done by one more than person.
Additionally,know that a crisis is not equal the marriage is over.Be calm and patient during a crisis.Learn to listen your partner.Try to develop emphaty with her/him.
Never underestimate the importance of a sex-life for a happy marriage.Therefore,dont neglect your partner no matter how much you are busy.It is a controversial issue how important sex is to a marriage.It takes definitely a big place in a marriage but still its importance varies from marriage to marriage.
Be honest to tell what you like and dont like.Also,focus on the positive moments rather than negative ones.Psychologist Harriet Lerner says ,“Newlyweds automatically know how to speak to the positive and make each other feel special and valued.But the more enduring the marriage, the more you’ll find yourself noticing and speaking to what you don’t like.And he shares his maxim which is quite correct.”No one can survive in a marriage, at least not happily, if they feel more judged than admired.”
For a happy marriage every couple has something to say.The most common are the ones advising mutual respect and tolerance as well as self-worth and self-acceptance.